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Experiment
A Lesson in Self Kindness -
from within a Widow's World
Part 1 - Dating
Recently, I was dating a man whom I met online. We have been
corresponding in email and after a few dates, I decided he was not right
for me.
Hence, my dilemma began.
In relationships, my usual course would be to NEVER, end them.
Typically, if I hit a bump in the road with someone, I would be hopeful
that the other person would change. Thus, the relationship drags on and
is uninspiring for both involved.
However, over the years, life has taught me that usually, people do not
change. My Coach Training has also helped me to approach difficult
conversations, with more ease.
So today, I decided I would gather my courage to tell this man that we
were not a good match. From my heart, I wished him the best of luck in
finding a relationship that was perfect for him.
Whew! I felt both relieved and scared. Did I hurt another person?
I knew I could not have this relationship drag on or give the wrong
impression that there was hope.
Therefore, I know I made the right decision for myself and ultimately
others involved.
When I stepped back and looked at the situation, I consider this a
lesson in self-kindness.
I stood up for something that I knew was not right. I spoke kindly and
delivered a message the best I could with kindness and grace.
It was a big deal and I was happy for myself to have made this change.
Yeah Me!
So now, it's your turn.
Are you in a relationship or have a client that is not right for you?
Taking action to end the relationship is a gift you can give to the
other person and yourself.
Here are some suggested steps that can make this challenge a little
easier.
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Think about the relationship
from an open mind.
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Make a list of issues that
are not working.
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Examine each issue. Determine
which issues you can live with and which go against your value
system.
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Review your findings and make
a decision.
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Coming from a loving point of
view, let the other person know about your decision. If it is a
client, give them some other options.
Remember there is no right or
wrong in any situation. What matters is that you remain true to
yourself. When discussing your decisions with another person,
communicate from a loving point of view.
Please share with us what small changes you have made in your
relationships. You may email us at,
Helen@LoveYourselfCoaching.net.
If you are struggling with food and have questions please send an
email to
helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or leave a comment on the
Love Yourself - It Matters Blog and I will address them in my
next article.
Helen
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